Kalie Matson has an amazing family and they have been her foundation all her life. Over the past few years, she noticed that she was burning out and she felt unfulfilled. She tried to find things that she was missing. She got into a different career and even started traveling. Unfortunately, she noticed that these weren’t doing it for her. Karlie had a life-changing intervention with Tony Robbins at Unleash the Power in San Jose in March this year. In this episode, Karlie will look at the mindset tools and techniques that have transformed her life.
1. Embracing Uncertainty
Before UPW, Karlie had been attracted to a life of certainty. Her entire focus would just be on one subject of just staying in a certain point. When she went into this certain mode, she was focused on others in the family and keeping the peace. Her whole mission became, you know, "How is everybody doing? How is their health? How is their happiness?" It was just like a repetitive cycle. Karlie now understands that it was important for her to feel like this because of her sister's health challenges. However, once her sister got well, Karlie never shifted her focus. She hadn’t checked in on herself in a long time. She was afraid of letting go of the certainty she had held onto because she didn’t want to lose the wheel she had going of just like everyone's doing okay. Her major mindset shift came once she understood why she was drawn to certainty. Karlie was then open to possibilities and she could now take more risks.
2. Daily Routine
Every night, Karlie sets aside her phone about half an hour before she gets to bed. She now gets up an hour earlier than she used to. This just allows her the opportunity to start her day without feeling rushed. She then turns off any noise, for example from the TV, and primes and clears her mind in readiness for the day ahead. This is followed by coffee while reading a book. She is currently focusing on the reading list from the UPW conference.
When she's getting ready for the day, she listens to some of the music lists from UPW. On her way to work now, she listens to a mix of podcasts and music. Nowadays, Karlie also has a little alarm that goes off every two hours that enables her to stay properly dehydrated. Karlie has also incorporated cleansing routines into her day-to-day life. Since the UPW conference, she has done two 10-day cleansing routines.
3. Setting goals
Karlie is an extremely goal-oriented person. Every year she does a goal board. She measures all the different kinds of successes whether it be in her business or her relationships or her finances. After UPW San Jose, Karlie revamped her yearly board. She put in new visions knowing that she would need more because she was going to be adding an uncertainty piece. At UPW, Karlie realized she wanted to do more house remodeling because this is what ignited her passion. She sold one of her rental properties in Oregon because she didn’t want to keep the certainty of having a residual income coming in. She also signed on to be a brand influencer for a network marketing company that's new.
4. Measuring Goals
Measuring goals is a really important thing for Karlie. By doing this, she can tell if she is growing and moving closer to her goals. Some goals may be measurable on paper while some can only be felt. Karlie likes to check how she is growing and improving through her goal boards. On her goal boards, she puts her goals, whether it relates to weight loss, finances, relationships and her career. Through the Masterminds she is in, Karlie can also check in on her long-term goals every week. Her great support from her family also helps her to remain accountable.
5. Growth Mindset
Tony Robbins has a quote, "If you're not growing, you're dying." Karlie has always wanted to grow in terms of her relationships, finances and fulfillment in life. However, her certainty was the main stumbling block for her growth mindset. She finds the saying, "Life is found in the dance between your deepest desire and your greatest fear," to be so true. After she went to UPW San Jose she learnt how to swap certainty for uncertainty and now her growth mindset is shifting her life.
6. Fulfillment and Focus
At the UPW San Jose, Karlie got to understand what fulfillment meant to her and what she was lacking. She realized that the fulfillment she was missing was balance. It was the emotion that she had when she was firing on all cylinders. She was burning out because she was having a lot of achievement and not fulfillment. She realized that she was doing extremely well in some parts of her life and very poorly on other parts. She understood that her focus on the areas where she was not achieving was negative. She may have initially thought she was putting effort into those areas but it was negative effort. She then made the decision to pick the positivity. One of the biggest parts of the breakthrough for Karlie was just understanding what fulfillment meant to her and then what she was missing on her focus.
Awaken The Giant Within - Tony Robbins
Mindset: The New Psychology of Success - Carol Dweck
The Sleep Revolution: Transforming Your Life, One Night at a Time - Arianna Huffington
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