Jack Canfield | Meeting a Mentor
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Today's guest is Jack Canfield, one of my most beloved mentors—and probably yours as well! It was an honor to sit down with him in his home in Hope Ranch, California, for this deep and lively interview. In fact, I was so excited, you can literally hear the exuberance that I couldn't contain!

In this talk, Jack shares his Top 4 Success Principles for anyone at any time (prob not what you’d think), discusses why he’s been dedicated to meditation for over four decades, the benefits of experimenting with Ayahuasca (🌱), and what's been the biggest gift for his own self-awareness. As he takes his success to the next level, Jack unpacks his definition of purpose and how to find it. Even if you’re unsure about where and what to do next, Jack will help you find clarity, direction, and purpose in your life.

What I love about this talk, is how clear it is that, throughout his journey of epic success, he’s found ways to live a life filled with love, joy and fulfillment. You will love this. 

Jack is an award-winning speaker and an internationally recognized leader in personal development and peak performance strategies. He’s the co-author of the best selling book anthology of all time, Chicken Soup for the Soul (7 NYT best-sellers at the same time!), The Success Principles, and 150 other truly incredible books. He also coaches some of the top leaders and entrepreneurs in the world. What I love about this talk, is how clear it is that throughout his journey of discovering his life’s purpose and enjoying epic success, he’s found ways to live a life filled with love, joy and fulfillment.

Some Questions I Ask:

  • What is your perspective in finding alignment in who we truly are? (9:10)

  • How do you utilize meditation? What are the impacts for you? (12:34)

  • What’s the book that you recommend the most? (29:37)

  • What incident in your life has given you the most self-awareness? (33:23)

  • Who is a mentor for you now and why? (35:39)

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • How Jack lives in a constant state of joy. (10:59)

  • How meditation brings wisdom. (14:58)

  • Why it’s important to listen in a world where everybody’s yelling. (19:27)

  • How Jack defines purpose and finding joy. (24:37)

  • What essential rituals and routines Jack has implemented into his life. (40:53)

  • How Jack defines success and fulfillment. (44:41)

Resources:

Chicken Soup for the Soul

The Success Principles by Jack Canfield

Iowaska

Power vs. Force by David Hawkins

Darren Hardy Website

The One Thing by Gary Keller

Connect with Jack:

Website

Twitter

Facebook

YouTube

Sarah Prout | How to Manifest Love
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For many of us, our dreams consist of one fundamental focus: being in a loving relationship. This conversation serves as a guide to manifesting love in our lives. Whether you’re single, in a fulfilling relationship or on the fence, this one is for you.

Instead of day-dreaming about the one or creating detailed lists of who we want them to be, Sarah suggests we need to approach love a little differently. It’s time to break our own rules, condition our courage muscles, and start taking action—even through a small mindset shift. Ask the universe for what you want yet lean into absolute uncertainty because that’s where the magic lives.

In this episode, I talk with Sarah Prout. Sarah is a bestselling author, multi-million dollar business owner, and a beautiful force for good. Ten years ago, Sarah walked away from an abusive relationship with two small children, two suitcases and $30,000 in debt. Through her intentional manifestations and the law of attraction, she’s prevailed against all odds. She’s married to the love of her life, created epic success, and is living her purpose by impacting millions of lives around the world.

Sarah shares her personal insights and experiences into the way the universe works, and unpacks basic truths and practices that you can apply to specific areas of your life immediately. You’ll be blown away by the simple yet profound inspiration.

Some Questions I Ask:

  • Why did you choose surviving an imperfect relationship as the title for your Goalcast video? (9:21)

  • How do you know you’re ready to tell your story? (15:52)

  • What is a quick fix to get in touch with the divine? (22:04)

  • How did you get to where you are today? (25:47)

  • What can we look for in our dreams as signs from the universe? (44:25)

  • What’s your definition of fulfillment? (52:02)

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • How Dear Universe functions to move from a space of fear to love. (7:06)

  • How Sarah’s entrepreneurial nature helped Sarah find independence from her abusive relationship and eventual professional success. (12:48)

  • How the viral Goalcast video is helping change people’s lives. (17:46)

  • Tips for manifesting love in your life. (36:16)

Resources:

Dear Universe by Sarah Prout

“How To Survive The Imperfect Relationship”

Connect with Sarah:

Website

Instagram

Facebook

Twitter

Scott Martin | How to Master Mindful Marketing
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I'm super excited to share this talk with you! My big hearted friend and marketing mentor, Scott A. Martin, unpacks the importance of Mindful Marketing — building a community, having patience, and fostering personalized relationships. It's so insanely good!

Scott's a serial entrepreneur and marketing executive strategist, with over 25 years in digital direct, social content production and so much more.

He recently launched an amazing podcast called, "The Groundswell Marketing Podcast" where he shares insights from TOP industry leaders for marketers and entrepreneurs, to help us build sustainable programs that are positively impacting the world. Definitely check that out.

Can’t wait to hear what resonates!

Some Questions I Ask:

How can you inspire people to change (level up) something that's disrupting their longterm, complacent patterns? [13:31]

How many communities do you have and across which platforms, and why are they valuable? [15:06]

Do you do this yourself, or do you have a team? [28:00]

What are some of your rituals and routines that you've implemented in your life that's making an impact? [53:15]

How do you define fulfillment? [01:04:07]

What are your currently top three values? [01:05:16]

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

•    What is Scott’s book about [28:00]

•    How Tony Robbins influenced Scott [37:00]

•    Why experimenting with new things is good for you [41:00]

•    What’s special about building communities in social [44:30]

•    How can you put yourself in a good mindset [54:33]

Resource links:

Personal:

Main Personal- www.Scott.eco

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ScottMartin.org/

Instagram: www.instagram.com/scottmartin_org

Groundswell:

Web- www.Groundswell.Marketing

Pod- www.Groundswell.FM

Linkedin- www.Groundswell.in

Instagram- www.instagram.com/Groundswell.Marketing

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Groundswell.marketing/

Some of the Communities Scott’s Created:  

https://www.facebook.com/groups/SurfArt/

https://www.facebook.com/groups/YogaSurfCamps/

https://www.facebook.com/groups/Yogi.eco/

https://www.facebook.com/groups/Marketer.eco/

https://www.facebook.com/groups/Heliskiing.Catskiing/

https://www.facebook.com/groups/SurfingCanada/

Facebook Live Challenge: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2119048648130266/?ref=bookmarks

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Michelle Sorro | The Ultimate Biohack is Love
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I recorded this one when I returned home from emceeing the Bulletproof Upgrade Labs 6th Annual Biohacking Conference, which was an absolute honor. I was feeling fully open and alive, and hopped on the mic to share some nuggets.

In this pod, I share about taking a leap of faith, literally and figuratively, off of a nearly three story platform. That jump launched a fresh mindset on facing fear, and helped cultivate more love and connection than I could imagine.

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • About my liberating leap of faith (5:26)

  • How I gained access to the ultimate biohack through loving my Magical Mama (20:03)

  • What it takes to fully align and awaken to our true selves (24:17)

  • The proven hack to sustain happiness (29:45)

Resources:

2020 7th Annual Biohacking Conference

Facebook Live Challenge Group

Personal Site

Bulletproof 360

Jon Levy

Sustainable Happiness

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Michelle Sorro | What Would Love Do?
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When in moments of reflection, how often do you look back and think to yourself: Ooo, that’s why I acted that way?

Better yet, how often do you catch it in real time and shift your mindset to move forward despite the fear and discomfort?

It takes courage to bust through a temporary limiting belief that wants to hold us back. When I’m conscious to the fact I’m facing one of my greatest fears, I ask myself a question my friend Kevin Crenshaw inspired me to live by: What would love do? 💖

On today’s episode, I share a vulnerable video I shared in my Facebook Live Challenge group about how I acknowledged my top limiting belief—and caught myself in the act of letting it drive my actions that could've sabotaged the very thing I wanted most. I share how I was able to break free, and align with the truth of who I Am to let love prevail. 💖

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • What led me to identify my top limiting beliefs. (5:53)

  • What it looked like when I fully acknowledged my top limiting belief. (7:43)

  • What happens when I finally broke through my fear in pursuit of love. (13:43)

Listen in on this journey of embracing the unknown, facing my biggest fear, and experiencing a divine, powerful, and sacred experience of LOVE. 💖

Resources:

Join Michelle’s Facebook Live Challenge

Unleash the Power Within

 
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Jake Ballentine | Creating a Community is the New Coaching Currency
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What’s holding you back? 

So often people—especially entrepreneurs—create, study or build anything new, and get stuck in the cycle of perfectionism. You can work and work and work on a project, and no matter how much of your heart, talent, and resources you invest, it feels like it’s never good enough so you never actually launch. Breaking free from that cycle is the most important step you can do for yourself your and business, and that’s exactly how Jake Ballentine created epic success as a musician and entrepreneur. He owned the value in his work and released it—the way it was, without obsessing over whether or not the work was “perfect.” 

Ready. FIRE! Aim. 

Jake also shares his take on how to cultivate community within your business. He believes that community fosters an environment that helps you maintain momentum without ever losing inspiration. For him, it’s about trusting yourself to take those first steps, and allowing yourself to be called by the mission and pull. 

Jake is the author of Your Number One Goal and host of The Speakers, Authors and Coaches podcast. Over the last 5 years, he has inspired over 250,000 people with his unique brand of motivation and positivity. 

Some Questions I Ask:

  • How many people have you spoken in front of? (5:03)

  • How does your message change with the age of your audience? (6:28)

  • How have you impacted lives through online community? (9:27)

  • How did it feel to shift from producing perfect content to producing authentic content? (36:54)

  • Who are your most influential mentors? (37:55)

  • What rituals and routines optimize your epic mindset? (43:35)

  • How do you define fulfillment? (48:46)

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Why Jake enjoys speaking with people of all ages. (5:50)

  • Why all of Jake’s clients relate to a typical 15-year-old’s mindset. (6:36)

  • How Jake’s community for message-driven entrepreneurs can help individuals become experts and leaders in their niches. (9:42)

  • Why a service-oriented mindset will make long-term sales easier. (15:07)

  • How Jake made a living doing what he loved without being “the best.” (22:56)

  • How Jake found success after abandoning the perfectionist mindset. (33:36)

Resources:

Your Number One Goal by Jake Ballentine

Living the Success Principles by Jack Canfield

The Speakers, Authors and Coaches Podcast

The Speakers, Authors, Coaches Summit

Speakers, Authors, and Coaches Network Facebook Group

7 Steps to Grow Your Business Through Building a Thriving Community by Jake Ballentine

Connect with Jake:

Website

Twitter

Facebook

LinkedIn

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Carolyn Rim | Spark Your Rockstar
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I just returned from Unleash the Power Within with Tony Robbins, my Rad Dad and sister, friends who feel like family, and 15,000 beautiful souls from around the world, including my guest today, Carolyn Rim.

At UPW, we uncover profound distinctions that cause us suffering and ultimately, how to break free. Carolyn’s question is: What pushes you forward every single day? Are you led by Fear or Love?  

Day in and day out, so many of us unconsciously operate out of fear. Fear of lack, fear of failure, fear of not being good enough, and the ultimate fear, fear of not being loved. If there's one thing that crushes creativity and holds us back from our dreams, it’s fear. Instead of fueling fear, why not be led by love, soul, and intuition? This is some of the incredible wisdom that Carolyn Rim brings us today. 

Carolyn has been a personal inspiration to me. She crushed her addiction to cigarettes with a snap of her fingers, ended an unhealthy marriage, and quit her 9 to 5 cubical job that left her soul unfulfilled. She’s gone on to inspire thousands of souls around the world, build a multiple six-figure coaching business, and find the man of her dreams. She’s a beautiful mother, leader, and friend. To sum it up: she’s a Rockstar.

In this episode, Carolyn and I unpack her powerful story of transformation. She shares how she discovered her life’s purpose, how she’s found success, and—of course—what fulfillment means to her. Carolyn is vulnerable, inspirational, and shares practical advice on how to rewrite the script of your life and Spark YOUR Rockstar. 

Some Question I Ask:

  • What is your definite major purpose statement? (13:14)

  • What mastermind are you in right now? (30:36)

  • What change have you seen in masterminds over the last few years? (33:05)

  • How did you meet your fiancé? (35:35)

  • How does a feedback call go? (42:26)

  • Are you usually a leader, follower, or right in the middle within your five closest people? (46:03)

  • How do you define fulfillment? (49:52)

 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Why motivation fades & what to do about it. (9:40)

  • Some morning rituals will change your life. (11:05)

  • How we block our abundance. (15:45)

  • Why masterminds can hold you accountable to pursuing your dreams. (25:25)

  • How comparison results in inner emptiness. (28: 58)

  • How Carolyn inspired me to quit smoking for good. (37:23)

  • How to handle feedback & why it’s important. (41:50)

Resources:

Awakening The Heart by Carolyn Rim

Connect with Carolyn:

Website

Facebook

YouTube

LinkedIn

Twitter

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Martin Tobias | Biohacking 101
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Do you ever feel like you just don’t have enough time in the day and then your self-care rituals are the first to go?

There are so many fancy words in progressive health these days, from “biohacking” to “human upgrading” and everything in between — all claiming to save time while providing the same results. When these buzz words get thrown around without truly being understood, people (🙋🏼‍♀️) can feel intimidated and skeptical about whether or not it really works. On today’s pod, we unpack biohacking in a simple way with the help of rockstar Martin Tobias, CEO of Upgrade Labs.

Martin is a serial entrepreneur and venture capitalist. He’s a recognized leader in technology and investor in many fast-growing markets. Now, he’s focused on the emerging intersection of healthcare, technology, fitness, and the transformation economy as an investor and entrepreneur.

In this talk, Martin shares his own personal experiences and transformations with the hacks that work for him, from meditation to specific exercises. He explains the quantifiable science behind the physical work he does and how he has actually become biologically younger! All this is done in less time than you’d think. He also shares how he met Dave Asprey and the “sign” that inspired him out of retirement to join Bulletproof Upgrade Labs. 🤩

Listen in below and definitely check out the Upgrade Labs 6th Annual Biohacking Conference! Let’s get upgraded! 🥳

Let’s get upgraded!

Some Questions I Ask:

  • What are the most effective biohacks for you? (10:08)

  • Why did you join Upgrade Labs? (26:15)

  • Will those who attend the conference able to implement what they learned back at home? (33:38)

  • Who is the Biohacking Upgrade Labs Conference for? (38:35)

  • What is your philosophy on people who make decisions? (40:25)

  • How did you meet Dave Asprey? (45:11)

  • What rituals and routines help you get stuff done? (49:43)

  • How do you define fulfillment? (51:52)

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • How Martin changed his vitality in life for the better. (7:48)

  • How Martin upgraded his physicality to improve his cognitive functions and biologically become 20 years younger. (10:13)

  • About various parts of the cell that determine your overall health functionality. (17:14)

  • About Martin’s experience with cryotherapy and how it benefited him. (21:42)

  • About Michelle’s instantaneous healing experience with Upgrade Labs. (31:27)

  • Why Martin is working to figure out how to make Upgrade Labs accessible to everyone. (36:17)

  • How Upgrade Labs hacks meditation with technology. (48:08)

Resources:

Upgrade Labs

6th Annual Biohacking Upgrade Labs Conference

Conference Promo Code for $200 Off Registration

Head Strong by Dave Asprey

Headspace Meditation App

Cold HIIT

Connect with Martin Tobias:

LinkedIn

Twitter

Instagram


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Jason Goldberg | Create a Competition Proof Business
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Ready for the BEST POD EVER?! :) For entrepreneurs (and solopreneurs), most of our days are spent both planning and taking action. No matter how much we try to control the world around us, things usually don’t go quite as planned. According to my friend Jason Goldberg, we have two options when that happens: become a Prisoner of Circumstance, or step into Self-Leadership.

Jason Goldberg is an award-winning entrepreneur, highly sought-after speaker, and the author of the #1 international bestseller Prison Break. He’s had a dynamic and fascinating life, and I love how he focuses on blending his signature mix of simple and transformational wisdom, practical business mentorship, and belly-busting humor to help coaches, speakers, and online educators build competition-proof businesses. In everything he pursues, Jason’s main goal is to always work toward connecting with someone and making a genuinely positive impact on them.

On today’s episode, Jason and I unpack truly transformational topics. He shares his experience of “nailing and scaling” a competition-proof business, the relationship between our fear and ego, and why everyone needs to prioritize connection in today’s world.

We’ve officially declared this episode as the best podcast episode I’ve ever done. I can’t wait for you to take a listen!

Some Questions I Ask:

  • How do you measure your impact on others? (14:42)

  • What is LPI and how does it relate? (17:20)

  • How do you balance being high-touch and the cost of personal time? (30:42)

  • How do you define fulfillment? (1:04:11)

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • About Jason’s approach to creating a competition-proof business. (10:19)

  • How you differentiate yourself in the business world. (11:21)

  • The real measure of success. (16:42)

  • Why it’s important to use social media as a dialogue (and not a monologue). (17:46)

  • Why Jason is obsessed with client astonishment. (31:55)

  • What it means to be a prisoner of circumstance versus a self-leader. (48:25)

  • The most powerful coaching Jason has ever received. (57:16)

  • The ten words that Jason's longtime and acclaimed coach, Steve Chandler, said that completely changed changed his life. <-- catch that at the very end of the chat. Sooooo powerful!!

 

Resources:

FREE ACCESS to How to Build A Competition Proof Coaching Business

Join the “Competition-Proof” Facebook Group

Join Michelle’s Facebook Live Challenge

The Prosperous Coach by Rich Litvin

The Work of Byron Katie

 

Connect with Jason:

Instagram

LinkedIn

Twitter

Website

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Michelle Sorro on The Mommy Millionaire Podcast | Serving vs Selling

Today, we’re turning the tables and putting ME on the opposite side of the mic!

With Cayla Craft after speaking at the Mommy Millionaire Live event, the #1 Conference for Women in Business.

With Cayla Craft after speaking at the Mommy Millionaire Live event, the #1 Conference for Women in Business.

I’m sharing an interview I did last week on Cayla Craft’s The Mommy Millionaire Podcast. Cayla is a nurse turned self-made millionaire, and on a mission to help women entrepreneurs find their path and explode in business.

In this episode, I’ll share some of my own career history, including the time I was on The Apprentice (throwback!). I share how important it is to truly own who you are, declare certainty in the value you have to offer, and quit the things that no longer serve you. It’s all about being unapologetically authentic in who you are and aligning that with your actions.

1. Quit to Win

Sometimes, we’re put into situations that require us to push and push and push—sometimes to the breaking point. This could include growing or maintaining a business, relationships, or anything else in life that requires serious effort that may have hit a threshold. There comes a point where this effort or connection is not healthy to hold onto and it becomes a draining process.

If it’s depleting your energy in the long run, then it may be time to let go. Don’t let anything keep you small and isolated. Instead, quit to win.

2. Experience Freedom Through Expression

In a society that tends to praise inauthenticity, most people don’t say what they truly feel. People don’t trust what’s in their soul. Instead, they bottle it up or just allow fear to control their actions and inactions.

So, just say it! The more you allow yourself to be expressive, the deeper, more authentic freedom you’ll experience. Express yourself more. Speak up. Voice your opinion! Be courageous to who you really are.

3. Serve, Don’t Sell

While I personally embrace sales, not everyone thrives in this space. When it comes to business, sales are essential to ensuring that you have the ability to financially keep going. So, getting comfortable with selling is a necessity. The first step to successfully selling yourself, your business, or whatever it is, is to shift your mindset. Don’t sell something—serve someone.

When you are offering your service, you need to be certain that what you’re offering is of value. When you feel that conviction—that certainty—then you are able to let go of any negative feedback that might creep its way into your space. As long as you demonstrate confidence in yourself and your business, those who do find value in it will magnetize with you. You’ve got to truly believe it for yourself; if you’re not buying it, then nobody else will either.

4. Live Shamelessly

To me, shamelessness is defined by conquering fear. Oftentimes, fear can actually function as a comfort zone; anything outside of your comfort is fear. Shamelessness is moving through that space and into an uncomfortable place. Be absolutely shameless in going for what you want and work your way up to the very top!

Resources:

Learn more at: Michelle’s Website

Instagram

Facebook

Listen: The Mindset Mashup Podcast

Join The Facebook Live Challenge

Date with Destiny

Connect with Cayla Craft:

Cayla’s Website

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Liz Hernandez | The Power of Words

How do you communicate with others? How does that compare to the way you talk to yourself?

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There’s a unique power in words and what you say to yourself affects your entire life. It’s easy to fall into a pattern of negative self-talk, but that doesn’t mean we have to stay in that disempowered mindset. That’s why I’m fired up for today’s guest, Liz Hernandez. She unpacks the reasons why she’s on a mission to help educate and inspire others to shift their language to positivity and self-love.

Liz is a Mexican-American, Emmy-nominated television personality and journalist. She’s quick-witted, with a genuinely beautiful spirit, and exudes authenticity in all she creates. She was incredibly successful in her entertainment news career, but over time, realized that her work was no longer in alignment with her mission and decided to answered the calling of her soul.

During the same period of time, Liz’s Mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and began losing her ability to speak. It was then that Liz realized the true power of words. This epiphany sparked her inspiration for Wordaful. Wordaful is derived from the phrase, “Words are powerful,” and serves as a new way to tell stories, make powerful connections to words, and manifest dreams to realities. Liz is a special force for good and I’m absolutely honored to have her on the show.   

Some Questions I Ask:

  • How would you characterize your transition into a space of personal development? (13:16)

  • Can you share your story about getting featured on the Oprah Winfrey Network? (17:22)

  • How can people identify qualities that do and do not serve them? (28:08)

  • What is your most recommended book? (30:55)

  • What criteria do you look for in a romantic partner? (34:22)

  • What is your defining mindset hack? (36:43)

  • How do you define fulfillment? (45:27)

 

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • About Liz’s journey to creating Wordaful. (6:54)

  • How Wordaful became a form of therapy for Liz. (13:36)

  • How words both internally spoken and externally spoken affect experiences. (21:24)

  • Why life starts to pay attention to us when we begin to care for and love ourselves. (23:48)

  • Why being your own best friend can transform your present life and future. (28:26)

  • The importance of finding happiness as an individual. (34:41)

  • About Liz’s morning routine that sets her up for daily gratitude and success. (36:53)

  • What has helped Liz positively shift her view of her body image. (40:48)

 

Resources:

Wordaful’s Website

Wordaful’s Facebook

Wordaful’s Instagram

Wordaful’s Twitter

Wordaful’s YouTube

A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson

The Power of Intention by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

Life Lessons by David Kessler and Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

You Can Heal Your Life by Louise L. Hay

MyIntent

Connect with Liz Hernandez:

Twitter

Instagram

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Dr. John Amaral | How to Elevate Your Energy
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I’m absolutely honored for today’s pod guest. 🙌🏼 Dr. John Amaral is the go-to energy worker for celebrities, pro-athletes, and billionaires, including my mentor, Tony Robbins. He’s a chiropractor, energy bodyworker and educator who helps people elevate their energy to feel and perform their best, shifting them out of a stressed state in order to reach an intense state of flow. 

His work heals physical injuries, anxiety, depression, and helps many high achieving people level up their energy for maximum potential. Basically he’s an earth angel. 💖🙏🏼💫 

In this episode, Dr. Amaral walks me through his "absurdly, ridiculously simple process," to help release undirected energy within my body to amplify blocked energy, expand my consciousness and upgrade my performance. It was a game changer and is why I'm sharing with YOU today. No matter what state you're currently in, this easy process will elevate your energy for mind blowing levels of clarity and freedom. I’m obsessed with this talk and know you’ll love it too. 

1. Acknowledge the Disconnect

The focus of our society is staying connected, usually through the overuse of technology. What you don’t focus on enough is the fact that technology can sometimes help you feel connected, but it can also distract you from fully connecting to yourself.

We get disconnected, too. If you look at universal consciousness like the Cloud, then our body is like our little device. We’re hungry to plug back in—to feel connected to something bigger than ourselves. In order to connect in this way, you have to take the time away from technology, get out of your own head, and find new ways to tune in, tap in, and plug into yourself. 

2. Managing Energy to Shift Reality

The feeling of being overwhelmed is sometimes difficult to define and pinpoint, but it usually leads into a debilitating state of fighting, totally freezing up, or completely shutting down. The feeling of being overwhelmed feels like tightness, tension, and being closed off; everything is too much to handle, and it’s a critical tipping point. Dr. John Amaral says that in order to get out of the state of overwhelm, it’s crucial to evaluate what is sucking up this energy, sparking this state in the first place. Then, you can start working toward energy conservation and opening up again.

The next step is to practically manage the energy within. The energy level that you’re at is what will dictate how you approach your body. There are different breathing techniques that manage the energy: building it up (breathing in and out through your nose) or lowering it down (breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth).

3. Get Back In Touch With Your Body

Dr. John Amaral says that an important method of releasing the tensions and emotions built up inside is to actually identify where in the body those emotions are held. You have to express the energy somehow through movement and sound; otherwise, it’s not an expression of emotion. This is oftentimes where anxiety and depression manifest: both are the inability to connect with the physical location of the body and release.

Put your hands on your head, your stomach, over your eyes, or wherever connects you to an experience. is it calming or irritating? Make that connection and take inventory. This is one of the first steps to transformation: awareness of your body and how it holds onto emotions Then, make a genuine sound that expresses how it feels to touch specific places on your body. Liberate that bound up energy, bring in more oxygen and blood flow to the tissue. This will instantly elevate awareness and mindfulness due to the enabling of energy to be free-flowing.

Resources:

Molecules of Emotion: The Science Behind Mind-Body Medicine by Candace B. Pert

Connect with Dr. John Amaral:

Website

Body Centered Leadership

Instagram

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Danielle LaPorte | The Power of Flow
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Are you always busy, constantly struggling to find extra space in your life to pursue the things you love?

So many people nowadays are addicted to their work and our society encourages that addiction. Now, people struggling to find time to even take care of themselves and their families, let alone pursue their personal dreams.

Danielle LaPorte was a workaholic. She’s an incredibly accomplished individual, having received praise from Forbes and Oprah, but this success took a serious toll on her health.

In the last year, Danielle realized that she needed to break the unhealthy cycle she found herself in. Now, she’s simplified her life, transforming the way that she lives and works. She actively combats workaholism and creates space to focus on her wellness instead. Now, she’s spending more time on herself, with her son, and working on projects that fulfill her. 

Get ready to learn about how to simplify your work, transform your life, and pursue your personal dreams from now on in this episode of The Mindset Mashup.

Some Questions I Ask:

  • What is lighting you up right now the best? (9:35)

  • What did you quit in this last year? (12:25)

  • How would you describe masculinity in the man that would set your heart on fire? (23:05)

  • What helps you slow down? (33:05)

  • What triggers your truth bombs? How do you measure if it’s a real truth bomb or fleeting thought? (49:44)

  • What are you looking forward to launching in 2019? (54:05)

  • How do you define fulfillment? (58:18)

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • How workaholism is a socially praised addiction and Danielle actively combats it. (9:39)

  • How Danielle made space in her life to prioritize her own wellness. (12:41)

  • What a simplified life looks like. (16:54)

  • What Danielle looks for in a man. (23:14)

  • What it means to be kind to yourself and be free. (30:36)

  • How regularly holding thoughts of gratitude can change your brain for the better. (48:27)

  • How Danielle’s planner can help you live from your heart. (54:36)

  • Danielle’s definition of fulfillment. (58:22)

 

Connect with Danielle LaPorte:

Website

Facebook

Twitter

Instagram

 

Also Mentioned on This Show:

Oprah’s SuperSoul Story

White Hot Truth by Danielle LaPorte

The Fire Starter Sessions by Danielle LaPorte

The Desire Map by Danielle LaPorte

Forbes: “The Education of an Entrepreneur, Episode 2: The Story of Danielle LaPorte

Instagram: Sadhguru

The Little Soul and the Sun by Neale Donald Walsch

David Deida Website

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Scott Harris | How to Master a Money Mindset
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Scott Harris is the CEO and founder of Ultimate Coach and Ultimate Expert. He has been in the industry for more than 20 years. Scott has been coaching, mentoring and speaking to individuals, companies, businesses and large audiences of up to 10,000 people. He helps such individuals and entities to create great success financially, physically and emotionally. Scott has dedicated his entire adult life to growth, change, and inspiration. Throughout his journey, he has worked with many influential forces like Tony Robbins, Deepak Chopra, Brendan Broussard, Robert Kiyosaki, and Sir Richard Branson among others. Scott is deeply committed to coaching as a powerful tool to create lasting results and massively genuine shifts in people.

1. Money has impact

Money impacts every single category in a person's life. If someone is unwell having more money allows that person to have better access to facilities, doctors and resources. In the 21st Century, money impacts health. It also affects relationships. An example is Scott's wife decided to be a stay at home mom. This was possible by having enough money to cater for her. Money affects an individual's ability to contribute to family or society. This shows how important money is and therefore deserves a high level of attention and focus. People need to focus their energy and attention on wealth creation and money because it affects life significantly.

2. Interacting with the Right People

Scott one day got tired of how he was living and decided to change his life completely. He decided to reinvent himself. He chose to interact with people with the right psychology who would challenge him to a higher standard. Scott now believes that people need to choose peers who challenge them even if they don’t like them. A person's social currency is worth more than any financial currency. This means that people need to find peers that disagree with them and are different from them. Scott also focused on building a peer group and a network of people that have very different philosophies from him.

3. Psychology and Mindset

The difference in the physical ability of lead athletes, footballers or swimmers is not that big but their psychology, mindset, and ability to bring the right skill at the right time is the difference. The difference in performance is not all about skillset or strategy. Its psychology and mindset. Always remember that success is 80% psychology and 20% mechanics.

4. Take responsibility

People need to understand that their wealth is their responsibility. It is not the government or spouse or economy, it’s the person. How much money a person has is a direct reflection of the work they have done. If a person is responsible for their wealth then it means they are in control of how much they create.

There is no point in pouring clean, purified water into a dirty bottle. After taking responsibility people need to clean their stuff and remove residues from their life. An example of residue in Scott's life was the notion that money is bad and to make a lot of it one has to sacrifice values. Scott also had debts as well which he had to clear. Cleaning stuff sets one free from their old relationships.

5. Health is wealth

There is a need for people to define what wealth is and the style of wealth they want. To achieve all that, they first have to take care of their state which is their wealth. Optimizing mental, physical and emotional states are all important in achieving any desired goal. Without health, one cannot have anything. The secret weapon to wealth is to optimize health.

6. Value of Wealth

People need to understand where wealth is in their value structure and hierarchy. They need to know how much they need and how it fits in with their other values. Scott has declined offers worth millions of dollars in order to assist his wife with parenting because he knows where wealth is in his hierarchy structure and he is able to find out some other opportunities to create wealth that was outside his current mindset.

7. Work

There is no real shortcut to success besides work. Whether it is knocking doors, sending hundreds of emails or making hundreds of calls. Working adds new skill and values as well as adding value to other people's lives. In this way, a person learns who they need to become in order to create the wealth they require or deserves. The journey is continuous.

8. Know your values

In order for people to become who they want to be, they need to know the values they need to have. What does that individual who wants to succeed start valuing that he or she was not valuing before? For Scott it was thoroughness. He needed to be thorough in order to be wealthy.

9. Rituals and Routines

Scott believes people should have morning rituals, office rituals, and home rituals and sleep rituals that are deliberate and intentional. Rituals enable a person to switch hats into different positions in the day. Scott does a 15 minute meditation before the end of the day. The meditation is about relaxing the body while focusing on being grateful and blessed for everything happening in his life. He also does nutritional things at night like a hot sauna with magnesium and lavender oils. This smelling ritual prepare him for valuable sleep.

10. Fulfillment

Fulfillment according to Scott is living according to his values. Scott's five values are to love and adore his spouse every day, to continue to love, adore and add value to his children, to help them turn into who they are meant to be, to love and adore his clients, and lastly to appreciate his body and feed and nurture his mind. If someone says they value something, then that person must spend their time, money and focus on that thing. Scott, therefore, spends his time and money on those values.

Connect with Scott Harris

Personal Website: https://www.scottharris.com.au/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/scottharris.au/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/scottharrisfan/

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Michelle Sorro | My Mindset for 2019
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Happy New Year! It’s a great time to establish new goals and reflect on how much you’ve accomplished over the previous year. I’ve always loved the excitement around a new year and all the potential that comes with it.

To start off this year, this episode will discuss how we get to where we want to go, along with the mindset we need to have. A good starting point is to reflect back on last year’s magical moments. Reflect on what you created last year and what you want to duplicate this year. Ask yourself, “What is my calling?”

When we align our minds with our hearts, we understand what we are truly called to do. Understanding this for myself has been so utterly fulfilling—more than I could ever have imagined.

1. Give Up the “How”

My mantra for 2019 is to surrender myself to the “how.” I know that I have big dreams, plans, and goals. I know that they will all manifest in divine timing but giving up control over how they manifest is part of my mindset for the new year.

Giving up control in this way relieves stress and lifts the pressure off your shoulders. I know that if I’m being called to do something, then all the resources and people will show up at the right time.

2. Serve from Love

Last year, I attended Tony Robbin’s Date with Destiny. That event is where the second (and most successful) phase of my life began. That event helped me find and define fulfillment for myself. I realized that I never gave back. So, I jumped into service with the sole intention of giving back. I left that experience with my new primary question for 2019: How can I serve love even more right now?

3. No Excuses!

I realized that all my life, I’d allowed myself to get overwhelmed very quickly. I vowed to never say that I’m overwhelmed ever again. After some reflection last night, I realized that though I never used the word “overwhelmed,” I still was making excuses for myself. I’d changed the language, not the mindset. Being overwhelmed or stressed just allows me an excuse to be restrained, hold back, and be lazy.

So, what if instead I just took a deep breath and took one baby step forward? A small, single piece of action is progress. Progress is happiness. That mindset is where creativity flows; that’s where there’s a glimmer of possibility. That’s where you find clarity.

Resources:

Nicole Sylvester – Spiritual Success Coach

Tony Robbins

Date with Destiny

Manifestation Babe Podcast

Mastery Mastermind

Connect with Me

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Dave Asprey | The Ultimate Game Changer
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Dave Asprey is the founder and CEO of Bulletproof 360, the leading food, beverage, and content company. He is also the creator of Bulletproof coffee and host of Bulletproof Radio. He recently authored the New York Times’ bestseller Game Changers, which answers the question, “How can I kick more ass at life?” In this episode, Dave shares some tips and tricks that have helped him maintain a hundred-pound weight loss and transformed him into a better husband, father, and entrepreneur.

1. Learn to Say No

In a society that demands everyone to say yes to everything, learning to say no can be transformational. Learning to say no was a common piece of advice from leaders and game changers that Dave Asprey interviewed. When it comes down to it, you have 24 hours within a day, and you can choose how to spend those hours. You can create things that you care about and create energy, passion, and improve your quality of life; or you can spend your energy struggling to prove your worth by doing the things that are most difficult for you.

Saying no to things does allow you more power over your mission, but it’s just as important to learn when to say yes to things. The rule that Dave lives by is to see if the irrational and rational parts of your mind simultaneously align when making a decision. If the logical part and gut-feeling part of your brain align, then absolutely say yes to that. If they don’t align, you probably shouldn’t do it. Save your energy for the next opportunity.

2. Spot your Blind Spots

On the path of personal development, one of the most crucial steps a person can take is spotting their own blind spots. Throughout our own personal journeys, we never truly arrive or become fully enlightened; it’s a slow evolution over time that requires a lot of internal work. This evolution consists of gaining and maintaining control over your own ego, meaning that pursuing self-awareness and crafting a supportive community around you is essential to a healthy development. The community of people around you cannot only consist of those who will affirm your efforts, but they must also call you out on your BS and expose your blind spots. As long as you put enough time and energy into being self-aware and creating that community around you, you limit your overall risk for large blind spots. Always remember that you don’t work alone; you work with more support than you probably realize.

3. Don’t Take Other’s Crap Personally

When starting up a company or pursuing a new dream, people will always find something to criticize. Oftentimes, it feels like they are personally harming you. The important thing to remember is that those who do the most disruptive and socially productive things are the ones who get the most crap from others. Beyond just becoming immune to the things that harm you, another way is to actually filter that negativity out. If someone says something bad about you online, it only takes half a second to click “ban” and “delete.” 

4. Habit Loops

What Michelle Sorro calls rituals and routines, Dave calls “habit loops.” Habit loops are both positive and negative habits that we go through mentally and physically every day, measured by the outcome of the actions that occur from the decisions being made.

For Dave, the habit loop he establishes for himself is to avoid making decisions; that is, he does not want to waste time on decision fatigue by making tons of little, insignificant decisions throughout the day that ultimately drain him. Instead, he creates habits for himself that eliminate those small decision points and prevents those decisions from hijacking his brain. For example, in the morning he limits the number of decisions he must make by wearing a Bulletproof t-shirt each day and only drinking coffee for breakfast

5. Top Pieces of Advice

Dave’s top piece of advice for everyone is to make time for gratitude. The power of gratitude is starkly underestimated; daily gratitude can absolutely transform your life and shift your mindset. Before going to bed each night—or first thing in the morning—list 3 things that you’re grateful for. This action actually changes your brain: it separates you from your fight or flight mindset and puts you into a space of thankfulness and mindfulness for what’s around you. According to Dave, this is one of the most important things that you can do for yourself.

Also, Dave wants everyone to know and understand that your body has an independent consciousness from your own. You might think that it’s your higher consciousness keeping you alive, but it’s not. A completely different consciousness is constantly at work keeping you safe, fed, and satisfied. Your job, as a human being, is to understand your meat’s needs and not let that system be in charge. Don’t confuse who you are with what your body does.

6. Fulfillment

For Dave, fulfillment means finding and pursuing the things that you’re here to do. You’ll understand fulfillment once you understand what your mission is and what path to take. If you’ve gone rogue and fallen off the path, you will feel it. If you continue to follow your path, you will experience true fulfillment.

Finding your path requires a ton of introspection. Dave suggests doing whatever it takes to push you out of your comfort zone and get out of your head. Sometimes this means going on a silent retreat, going hiking, or even taking LSD. When you stop thinking so much and start paying attention, you will understand. You just have to find the time and space to sit down and connect with the mission that’s already inside of you. When you ask, the universe will tell you.

Connect with Dave Asprey:

Game Changers, by Dave Asprey

Bulletproof Website

Facebook

Twitter

Instagram

YouTube

Blog

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Siri Lindley | How a World Champion Overcame Fear and Failure
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She is a two time world champion and she's the number one ranked triathlete in the world and she has been inducted into the USA triathlon Hall of Fame. Siri Lindley is a graduate of Brown University. Siri is also a key note speaker, a best-selling author, and a high performance coach. Siri has unbelievable grit and gladiator spirit, all fueled by a peaceful, warrior-loving soul that wants to make a genuine impact in the world by helping empower many to understand what really drives them from the inside out. In this episode, Siri will talk about some of the mindset tools and techniques that she's applied to her life that have catapulted her to where she is now.

          1. The Gift of Life

When Siri was young, she was riddled with fear and  had anxiety disorders. She was a mess and terrified in her own skin. It was at this time that animals became Siri's saviors. They made her feel safe, loved, and like she mattered at a time when she had convinced herself that she didn’t. Now, Siri and her wife run a course rescue where they rescue horses from slaughter. Siri has witnessed that when somebody believes in you, especially when you thought that a particular moment was the end,  and decides to take a chance on you and believes in you and your future, you will want to be everything you can be for that person. Siri feels that horses are so grateful when they bring them in and they give them the medical care they need, and pair them with a forever home or equine therapy school. A majority of the horses they rescue come back and heal the humans that they come in contact with. Siri believes that it's kind of come full circle for her. Animals rescued her and now she's rescuing animals who are also rescuing humans. Life is what lights up Siri each and every single day.

          2. Abundance Focused Life

Siri was 20 years old at Brown University when her life changed completely. She was a three sport athlete and she was getting a great education and on the outside it looked like she had things pretty figured out. However, on the inside Siri was slowly dying. She was terrified of her own skin and she didn’t really know who she was. She had this massive OCD which is how she was dealt with her anxiety and fear. While reading Tony Robbin's book, Unlimited Power, she learned that, what is real and what is possible is what she believes is real and what she believes is possible. She controlled her experiences of her life. What she believes, what she wants to feel and what she wants to create—that was up to her. She was the only one who had the power to change her experience of life. 

What Siri realized was that she was focusing on what was missing, what she didn’t have, what she feared and what she had no control over. Siri decided to make a shift and began focusing on abundance instead of scarcity. She began focusing on what she had and what she wanted to create and what she loved instead of what she feared. She also began focusing on the fact that she had all the control in the world over her life and what she did with it. 

          3. Hunger, Desire and Resilience

A few years ago, a friend of Siri invited her to a party. They went to this really cool bar, but the bar had women only. She hung out there for a while and she enjoyed herself. This is when she realized that she was gay. A year later after finding out that she was gay, Siri received a call from her father. Her father wanted to confirm whether she really was gay. Siri admitted to him that she was gay. Her father hang up the phone and she didn’t hear from him for about three years. With this rejection Siri felt that everything she had accomplished to that point meant nothing now that she was gay because she was a complete failure and her own father was rejecting her.

Now, Siri realizes that the rejection was her greatest gift. When Siri's father rejected her, she got this intense and deep fire to get out there, find out what she's made of and what she can achieve in her life. She needed to prove to herself that, as a gay woman, she could still achieve things that she thought were special, inspire people, and make a difference in the world. Siri believes that she would not have had the drive and the desire to want to dig as deep as she had if her father had not rejected her. 

Siri was just determined to prove everyone wrong that as a gay woman she can achieve, she can inspire, and she can make a difference. Everyday her goal became doing something that would take her one step closer to achieving a level of proficiency in the sport that she had fallen in love with. She therefore worked her ass off and accepted the fact that to achieve anything amazing, she was probably going to fail along the way and she was going to hit roadblocks and detours. She became comfortable with failure by accepting that it was a part of the path.

          4. Getting Uncomfortable

Siri's biggest philosophy is we have to get uncomfortable. Each and every one of us has come to point where it's hard and we have to dig deep. However, many people don’t take it to the point where they ask themselves, "Oh my God, am I going to even survive this?" One thing that Siri's coach did that took her from being a middle of a packer to a world champion is every day he would give her a task that seemed absolutely impossible. One day Siri went to her coach sore all over and stiff. She told him that she couldn’t even move her legs or lift her arms and so she couldn’t do the exercise he had requested. Her coach looked at her and told her to find a way. Siri decided to go out there and do the best that he could to get the exercise done. What ended up happening is every day, her coach would give her something that seemed so impossible and she would succeed in getting it done. So everyday Siri was building up this honest confidence that came from the facts. Those that are willing to get that bit more uncomfortable are the ones that are truly going to get the gift of stepping in further but in order to do this you've got to have this deep reason why it matters to you.

          5. Routines

Every day Siri wakes up is grateful. The first thing she’ll do in the morning is say thanks and then lays out intention. Siri is even grateful for the little things that might seem insignificant. She often wants to show her appreciation for the gift of life and the life that she leads. Siri believes that the best possible way to show her thanks to appreciate this is to acknowledge it and use everything she has inside of her to the fullest every day. So Siri wakes up and she thinks about three things that she's grateful for. Whenever Siri is not rushing to work, she will do Tony Robbin's priming exercise. The impact Siri hopes to have is loving the horses and making them feel safer and helping her athletes reach all new levels mentally, physically and emotionally. Siri will then get up and then she'll work out. She is not an intense trainer anymore but she loves running. She then goes about her day and ensures that she is always present. This is so important because in this present age it's so easy to be distracted. Siri is all about doing something while being fully present. Siri finally ends the day with gratitude by thinking about the great things that happened.

          6. Fulfillment 

Siri believes that at the end of the day or when you accomplish something, being able to appreciate and be grateful for what came from that achievement and what you gained from it and how it will touch the lives of the people around you is fulfillment. Always remember that everything we do has the potential to inspire or to move or give hope or free someone else. Fulfillment is knowing that what you've worked so hard to achieve will also inspire others to have that same courage and be brave and find their angel and reveal it to the world as well.

Resources

Unlimited Power: The New Science of Personal Achievement - Tony Robbins

A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles" - Marianne Williamson

Surfacing: From the Depths of Self-Doubt to Winning Big and Living Fearlessly – Siri Lindley

Connect with Siri

Personal Website

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Joseph McClendon III | Behind the Scenes with Shake That Ass
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Joseph McClendon III has a PhD in neuropsychology. He is currently working on his new book title Awesome Sauce. In this episode, Joseph talks about his mindset tools, techniques, hacks, rituals and routines that have enabled him to succeed in his life. 

  1. Shake that Ass. 

Your attitude will determine how far you will go, what you'll do and what you won't do. If you need to change your attitude in the moment, the quickest way is to move your body. The more of your body you move, the quicker and more and deeper that attitude will change. The place that makes your entire body move is the pelvis area. The science is that when you move your physiology, you change your attitude. Joseph calls it ass-itude because if you shake your ass, you're actually changing everything and there is not a person on the planet that can shake their ass and not change their state. Joseph believes that just by simply shaking your ass, you can rewire your brain and your nervous system to default—to a more productive and resourceful way of being. It literally makes new neurological associations and physical connections develop in your brain. We can therefore direct the attitude that we want to have with the ass-itude that we want to have.

          2. 60/20/20 Rule.

We have all heard the 80/20 rule which is, it's 80% psychology, meaning how you think and your consistent thought patterns and who you are and your identity and what you think you can do. And then it's 20% mechanics. This is why people do things that they're not good at but they get miraculous results. Joseph likes to take what already exists and improve on it in the way he calls going further and faster. This is where Joseph's 60/20/20 rule comes in play. 60% is still psychology. The 20% of it is energy. The energy that we have to get up early, stay up late and do all these things. As a result, this will make us do more so that we will have more. The other 20% is attractiveness. It's not just looking good and it's not just the laws of attraction attracting things into our lives, although that's part of it. It's our being attracted and causing our self to be attracted to what we want in a way that is fearless because most people when they want something, what's keeping them from going after it and causing that magic to happen is their own inhibitions, their fears, their shortcomings.

          3. Contribution and Attraction.

One of Joseph's secret weapons is contribution. He wants to help his fellow human beings as much as he possibly can because this creates a level of gratitude within oneself. It's all about energy. The energy is electricity and your excitement, your enthusiasm, your reasons why, they become enhanced to level 10 as you contribute. Joseph's second secret weapon is he knows how to attract things into his life and to cause himself to be attracted to what he wants and he knows how to teach it to other people.

          4. Sleep.

Joseph saw a quote once that said, "If you change 1% every day, at the end of the year you've changed 365%." Time is biggest thing that you can never get back and it's the biggest thing with entrepreneurs and achievers that they never have enough of. Therefore he decided to change one aspect of his life, his sleep. Imagine this, if you sleep one hour less a night, that's 365 hours and if you divide that by 12 hours, a 12-hour day, it comes to 30. Joseph sleeps 3 hours less than the average person and so he feels like he has three extra months a year than the average person of time. Everybody's body is different but the vast majority of people can sleep at least an hour less. Joseph has been doing this for 30 years and he is excited and rejuvenated.

          5. Morning Routine

Joseph begins his mornings by getting on the chi machine for 10 minutes and this energizes him even more. He will get up and go wake his son up and makes breakfast. The entire time that he's doing this, he's just chilling the freak down. Freak is that conversation that we have in our head. The worry, stress or uncertainty. Joseph uses the three Fs to do it. They are fish, fire and friends. What this means is when we allow ourselves to just zone out, we're literally rewiring our brain to chill that freaking voice out. It can happen when you stare in a camp fire or you look at fish in an aquarium. Joseph therefore bought his house because it had a koi pond. He will feed his fish whenever he just wants his mind to zone out. When he's not at home, he looks at pictures of his fish on his phone. 

          6. Affirmation

Initially, Joseph's affirmations involved wanting more money and a better career. One time he changed his affirmation to "I am" and he started affirming that he was. He would affirm that he was a good person and that he was powerful and strong. Shortly after that he started to believe it. From this, Joseph developed an identity about himself that no matter what he did, he's going at the very least, one of the best at or the best. He may not have been the best at the things that he was doing, but he thought he was and if he thought he was, it felt good and he would end up doing more of it.

          7. Challenges

There are four big challenges that most achievers have. Number one, lack of refocus not focus. Most achievers have therefore done some sort of goal setting and they know what they want. The challenge is, even though most people know what they want and they can focus on it, they don’t stay focused on it to the point that they continue to take action. The reason why is because we get distracted. Its things that make us procrastinate. So always remind yourself. Use your phone and just tell Siri to remind you every hour to refocus. This key will cause you to go back to what you want.

The second challenge most achievers face is lack of plan and continued input on personal development. This is the lack of a plan of how you're going to grow yourself. So always continue to put yourself in an environment that is going to contribute to your personal growth as well as your growth to the things that you want to make happen.

The third challenge is lack of energy. This literal energy is electricity that you put off. This electricity that you put off causes you to be excited and driven and pulled towards what you want. The last challenge achieves face is lack of attractiveness. Attractiveness is that overwhelming electricity that attracts you to what you want and what you want to you.

          8. Fulfillment

Fulfillment for Joseph is to be able to wake up every morning with a smile on his face and to appreciate all that he is and be grateful for what he had.

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Alison Armstrong | How to Get and Keep Love
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Alison Armstrong is a best-selling author, sought after speaker and a master thought leader. She's the founder of PAX Programs, a mission driven company passionate about transforming the way men and women relate to themselves and each other and the ultimate source for understanding men and women. Alison distinguishes human instincts that compel both men and women to behave in ways that contradict and undermine our own purposes, goals, values, needs and relationships. She offers partnership-based alternatives for more fulfilling lives, loving relationships, stronger families and productive organizations. Alison's philosophy and approach is frequently referenced and taught by other authors, speakers, business consultants and therapists. Alison is best known for the Understanding Men online course, The Queen's Code top selling book and In Sync with the Opposite Sex audio program. In this episode, Alison offers advice to people considering dating or marriage. She will also share some of the mindset tools and techniques that she has been applying in her life.

 

  1. How Not to Be A Frog Farmer 

Many women have wondered why men are wonderful in the beginning, but after a few weeks or months, they turn into sports-watching, pizza-eating, beer-belching couch slugs. Alison had the opinion of  men as con artists and if she poked them just the right way, if she could antagonize them just the right way,  and she would reveal the con before she was suckered again. In February of 1991, Alison realized that she was a frog farmer. Since then she has learned a lot about men and is still fascinated by them.

Women need to avoid viewing men as insensitive, inconsiderate, dishonorable and unaccountable. Men are not any of these things, they just express who they are and what they are in such a different way. Women should avoid interpreting what men do through what that would mean if a woman did it.

          2. Dispelling the Myth of Single Statistics 

Men and women have found each other and bound each other literally to survive. There's an instinctive drive in women that can also exist in the domain that we call human spirit. However, the question is, I am I better off with them or am I better off without them? This is a fundamental and legitimate question. Men and women need each other. In the past, men needed women for their sex drive and to be nurtured and nourished. On the other hand, women needed men for physical protection, for economic security. This is what drove marriages for a really long time and had people stay in unfulfilling marriages. Nowadays, most people are unmarried. This is  a sign of women's economic ability and economic independence. Therefore, most women believe that they are better off without men, which is not a bad thing as the statistics may suggest. 

          3. How to Identify an Ideal Candidate 

First and foremost, before you think of dating, you should get clear with yourself on what the qualities a man or woman should have that would make you be better off with that person than without them. What is it they would want to give, they would want to contribute or they would want to provide? What are their gifts that they're just dying for somebody to value and receive? Alison has realized that the longer we live, we keep distinguishing and refining what matters.

         4. Why Identifying Your Special Gifts is Key 

When you fly the flag of the truth for yourself, then the people for whom you're not a fit are going to stay away. They won't ask you out or keep trying to spend time with you. They're not going to take your time. People usually think that if they don’t tell the people they're dating what really matters until they think they like them, then they will eventually go along with it. The whole time we're not saying what really matters. There is an inauthenticity. Authenticity is the third most attractive quality in a women. So you're actually making yourself less lovable by not telling the truth about yourself. 

          5. How to "Get" Him 

After you figure out what qualities you need, you should then go out with a set of black and white questions. You may want a person who is dependable, honest, considerate or responsible. Alison recommends talking with a potential date for a long period of time before the actual date. In fact, if they're unwilling to do that, don’t go out with them because if they really were charmed and enchanted by you, they would be willing to do that. If they're unwilling to talk to you, they just want to be in your physical presence as quickly as possible. It doesn’t necessarily mean they're a bad person. It just means that the way they're attraction to you is insufficient for the kind of relationship you want to achieve.

When you're interacting with them, whether it's reading their profile or talking to them, you need to ask yourself, does this man have my desired qualities or not. Is he generous or not? Is he honest or not? Is he kind or not? Is he considerate or not? Then you need to mash it up a bit with “How"? If the question is, is this man generous, then you should ask, how is this man generous? Your mind will look at how he was kind to the waiter or how he keeps noticing that you didn’t finish what you were saying. Your mind will look at how he's speaking to his employees. When you're listening to someone this way, really curious about them and stretching to see them, not just looking to judge them, the effect on the person is profound. They'll be like, "Oh my gosh, you really see me. Oh my gosh, you're really here."

          6. Stating Deal Breakers Up Front 

Alison feels that this is why it's important for people to figure out what their deal breakers are. Deal breakers by what you can't live with and what you can't live without. Your deal breakers should be in your online profile but you also have to assume that they were not read and they were not abided by. If you have a real representation of yourself up there, then the chances that they're picking you for you goes up. Then in the first conversation, before you even get together with them, just ask them some questions from your profile.

          7. Quick Fix to Tap into Femininity 

Being committed to a specific result or intention or a destination puts us in hunting mode. This energy is good for getting stuff done but it's not good for dating. Instead, women need to be open. To be open to options, possibilities and alternatives. This is what is known as the gathering mode. If a woman is in hunting mode, she is going to behave in particular ways and have a particular energy about her that mostly will attract men who want to be taken care of. On a date, it's important to shift to gathering mode which makes you open to who the person is. So you have to let go off any goals you have for that date. The point of each date is to practice being yourself. If you practice being yourself, then every date will have served you no matter how it turns out with that person.

          8. Wait for the Well

Waiting for the well is counter instinctual to what women normally do, however it is very simple. When you ask a question, just wait for the answer and literally count to 30 in your head. Don’t be tapping your foot or being impatient. Let him go and hunt down the answer for you because he feels committed do so.When he comes back and gives you an answer, wait another 30 seconds and literally keep doing that until he says, "That's all I have to say about that," and most women have never heard those words. So if you want to create more intimacy, to be more informed, to feel more included, to connect with this person, waiting for the well is one of the most important things you can do. 

          9. The Sedona Method

One important technique Alison does is the Sedona Method. This method is about releasing. An interesting fact about dolphins is the basis of this method. Dolphins shed their skin 12 times in 24 hours. So if they get cut or marked, you can't tell within a few days. Alison wanted to be like a dolphin, in that she couldn’t be recognized by her scars or her wounds or her limiting beliefs. She was going to shed all this off. Alison therefore uses the Sedona method for this.

Resources

The Queen's Code - Alison Armstrong

In Sync with the Opposite Sex: Understand the Conflicts. End the Confusion. Make the Right Choices - Alison Armstrong

Making Sense of Men - Alison Armstrong

The Sedona Method - Hale Dwoskin

Connect with Alison

Understanding Men Website

The Queen's Code Website

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Jairek Robbins | A Real Talk on Love and Legacy
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Jairek Robbins is a number one bestselling author. He's also a performance coach and lifestyle entrepreneur. He has dedicated his life to helping people achieve success by living with purpose in life and business. At 23 years old, Jairek was awarded the gold medal congressional award from United States Congress. He's conducted trainings for a variety of companies and organizations including Harvard University, The United States Marines, The United States Airforce, Special Forces, BMW, RE/MAX, UBS, Major League Baseball teams and members of the U.S. Olympic team. He's a trusted advisor and board member to a variety of different companies and today at 34 years old with over a decade of performance coaching experience, he continues to unlock secrets for maximizing performance and organizational success. In this episode, Jairek will delve deep into some of the mindset tools and techniques that have enabled him to get to where he is today.      

    1. Start with a Vision

Jairek has learned that it’s always good start with a vision. His has a 20-year vision. If you're one of those people that do things because they're just supposed to, you won't go far. You need to work backwards. Think of the result you actually want long-term in your life, in your health, emotions, family, finances and business. Think of where you want to be in all these parts of your life and think of what half-way there will look like 10 years from now. Go on and look at what the quarter mark looks like, then what five years look like from now. What are the tangible results you'd have and how you'd feel and what would go on and what would your bank account look like and what would your health and diet look like? Get specific. 

Then go ahead and work all the way back down. What does this year have to look like to be on track for 20 years? If you're going to add it up, you have to know where you're going to be 12 months from now. What about 6 months from now? Do this all the way back to what do you have to do today? Now, if you decide to do something today, you know that the reason you're doing that specific thing every day is for the next 20 years you’ll know exactly where you will end up. 

Jairek aims that at 50 years old, he will be healthier and stronger than the majority of 20-year-olds in the world. Emotionally, he wants to be passionate about his life, living on mission and enjoying every moment life has to offer. He hopes that he will be passionately in love with his wife and every day their love will be growing deeper. Business-wise, he aims to have 10 + companies that are making over $100 million a year in profit.

          2. Building Relationships

Jairek shares how he managed to find his wife, Amanda. He was lucky that he found a partner who is as committed to doing the work every day to build their relationship. Earlier in their relationship, they had agreed that they were going to learn and read and practice on their relationship. They realized that building their relationship would be a process and some days they might have meltdowns and not know which way is up but they would be willing to stick with each other long enough to figure it out.

Jairek learned not to approach relationships thinking, "Here's what I want. I want someone who's this tall, who looks like this, who act like this, who loves these things and who does these things." He initially was looking for what he could get out of a relationship instead of what he was showing up to try and give to the relationship. This realization was a game changer to his friendships and business relationships. What was he there to give? He sat down and got really clear on what his gifts were. What are the things that he could bring to the table that are unique to him alone? The things he could give 24/7 because it's just part of his DNA and it's just who he is. And then he had to share with another human being, are these the type of gifts you value in any way, shape or form in your life? 

          3. Learn from Successful People 

To be successful, Jairek has learned that it is important to find people who have experienced what he wants and ask what they have done—find out their habits and routines. There might be people who may think they are creative, artistic and not a carbon copy of anyone else. They may not want to copy other people and they may want to create their own way. This is absolutely wrong. Use the life experiences of other people to save yourself years of headache. Use the results that are there and once you get good at using what's there then customize it,  adjust it, and tweak it to be your own unique twist or style or flavor. At that point you will know not only what works, but what works for you. 

Once you figure out what works for you, the next stage is how do you automate it? How do you make it unconscious competence that you do it every day without having to think about it? In order to do this, you need three things. First, you need a trigger, something that sets it off. You need a routine, how you go about it and you need a reward to reward your nervous system with pleasure to say, "Good job, do it again." You have to build in these habits consciously on purpose. Build one each time and keep doing it until its part of who you are.

          4. Morning Routine

A research from Harvard says if you were to write down three things you're grateful for each day for 30 days in a journal,  at the end of 30 days, your overall happiness and satisfaction of life will improve. You will be happier in your life just by doing this simple task. Realize that you are already blessed because most people live under $2 under a day. 

For 20 years now, Jairek has gotten up in the morning and done a gratitude morning routine. When he was in high school, he would do it at 5:30 a.m. before football practice. He would just run around the neighborhood and in his mind tried to figure out what he was grateful for. After the three minutes of gratitude, he would do three minutes of future and vision planning. He would try to figure out what his future would look like. Though his vision has adjusted over the years, he would always be thinking about what he was excited about in the future. The things, the moments and the special opportunities that he was very excited about for the future. Thirdly, he would visualize who he was going to be today. How was he going to choose to show up in this world today? He would then mentally rehearse it.

Jairek's morning routine starts with meditation. He then spends time with his wife reviewing their future vision. They just empty out their minds and then they just flood it with the things they want to be focused on consciously and subconsciously. After this, they go work out. When they were in San Diego, Jairek and his wife would have a gratitude walk. They'd go on a three mile walk together and share everything they're grateful for about each other out loud with each other. Then they'd talk about everything they're excited about and the future they're going to do together and share together. They'd then hit the gym afterwards. Now because they are in Miami Beach, they don’t have the walk. Jairek goes straight down to the gym after reading his future vision and after he's done working out, then he comes back and then they share with each other. 

          5. Purpose

Everything in life has a purpose. The moment you no longer serve a purpose in the ecosystem, you will be eliminated. This is how the ecosystem works. So realize, if you're still breathing and alive, there's a reason. Discovering what the reason is, we might spend too much time on this. So we should therefore step back and figure out, if you're looking for a purpose as far as what your purpose can be in your profession or an opportunity, you should look at what you love to do. 

The second piece is, what are you actually talented at? If you can mix this together, you can start to see things that you'd be passionate about. These are the types of things that when you're done doing, you have more energy than when you started. So after you look at what you love and what you are good at and you mix these together, you start to see things that generally you would succeed in.

Before you use your passions to start a business around, go back to list the things you love. Take a highlighter, highlight the ones that are absolute sacred and just for you because these you should never turn into a business because they're your sacred things. Do not let these turn into a business where you try to monetize that to anybody else just because you love it, they're yours. The rest of the stuff that you love and the stuff that also qualifies as something you're talented at, go to a third list. Look at what people want, not what they need. 

The third thing is what are they willing to pay for? When you overlap all four of these, what you love to do, minus out the sacred stuff, what you're actually talented at, what people want, not what they need and what they're willing to pay for. Out of these four lists combined you should get about three to five options that would qualify as something you could do that you'd be very passionate about and could turn it into an opportune business for yourself.

          6. Fulfillment

Fulfillment for Jairek is that moment when you are 100% content and fulfilled with every breath in your body not needing to do a single thing more to feel completely full and to know that you as a living, breathing being are more than enough and you're really done it. The moment when you can confirm in your mind that you've lived fully, you loved deeply and you did something that mattered with your life. You'll be able to sit there and feel fulfilled in that moment knowing, if you were to die at that moment, you would just high five yourself for a life well lived. Every day you can design your life in a way that you wake up and you give your all and at the end of the day, you can look at whether you did something that mattered or something that will long outlive your physical presence on the planet?

Resources

Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success – Adam Grant

The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business – Charles Duhigg

LIVE IT!: Achieve Success By Living With Purpose – Jairek Robbins

In Sync with the Opposite Sex- Alison Armstrong

Connect with Jairek

Personal Website

Instagram

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